Comments on: Dealing with the potential in-laws

By: Karl

Karl — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 00:24:50 +0000

“I would have to agree with Andrew your grammar is impeccable!”

He must have had a great English teacher.

By: jca

jca — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 17:29:41 +0000

I would have to agree with “sjs”. I deal with a little bit of this sort of behavior (though not to the same extent) with my parents. Filling a vat of angst, confusion and frustration can only lead to larger problems later on when said vat becomes leaky and/or tips over (which it inevitably will).

I might clarify that relegating irrational behavior to an irrelevent status doesn’t mean ignoring them completely - that could lead to similar grief. This is a tough and annoying situation though. It doesn’t sound like there is any perfect solution. Maybe with the right number of level-headed, rational communications (your email was pretty good) they will start to change, but don’t expect a 180 any time soon.

Good luck man! Let me know if you need to have a beer sometime

By: sjs

sjs — Tue, 03 Jul 2007 15:52:24 +0000

Getting into a state of rage at one’s potential in-laws is not good for you, them, or your relationship. Avoid this. At all costs. This is grief you do not want to partake of.

This does not mean “roll over”. Since the passport is unavailable, simply go to the post office, explain that the passport is lost or stolen, and that a new one is needed. Rather than trying to force them to conform them to your will, make their irrational behavior irrelevent.

By: Kevin DeGraaf’s Blog » Fleeing the country

Kevin DeGraaf’s Blog » Fleeing the country — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 22:28:58 +0000

[...] what of those parents with a looser grip on reality? Being unable to rationally counter the points I made in support of Lisa being given her passport (in fact, the email has been read and ignored), [...]

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 04:10:03 +0000

I would have to agree with Andrew your grammar is impeccable!

Rock On,